Finding the Truth About Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos

Nowhere in the New Testament does God tell us that we should seek to preserve our virginity until marriage. Instead, He tells us to walk in sanctification and honor, and to abstain from sexual sins. What’s the difference? Everything. Read More …

The Trauma of Spiritual Abuse, Part 2: Blinded, Bleeding, Broken

As I began to read about the effects of sexual abuse, I started to see some definite similarities between the effects of sexual abuse and spiritual abuse. Both can seem fairly innocuous. Both can have far-reaching consequences that no one, including the victim, recognizes as the result of the abuse.

But the results are there, nonetheless. Read More …

The Cross Has Made You Flawless

I didn’t really believe that God wanted me in His kingdom. I certainly didn’t think I delighted His heart or brought joy to Him unless I did some good work for Him. I didn’t believe that He had chosen me. I didn’t really grasp that I was His son.

And I didn’t believe that He is the basis of my righteousness. Read More …

What is a Meek and Quiet Spirit?

A woman with a “meek and quiet” spirit can be the adventurous type, or the type that’s not afraid to speak in front of a thousand people. Actually, a meek and quiet spirit would help her to do so without freaking out.

I know, that might sound like a 180 degree shift from your picture of a “meek and quiet spirit”. It’s time to reprogram. Read More …

Is the Bible the Third Member of the Trinity?

Today, many Christians have turned the Bible into an idol. They religiously study it, day by day, week after week, month after month. They make commitments to read the Bible every day. They know the Bible inside and out. And Read More …

Vows and Commitments: Tools for Spiritual Abuse?

For as long as I can remember, I have heard about vows and commitments. Throughout my life, different speakers and teachers encouraged me to make various commitments. Bill Gothard probably pushed me to make more commitments than anyone else. He Read More …

Purity Culture Messed Me Up. This New Book Explains Why.

I grew up in Purity Culture.

And while, to some people, that probably sounds like a good thing, it wasn’t.

But what in the world could be wrong with promoting purity?

Plenty. Read More …